As Always. Always Yours: Father's Day

Sunday 17 June 2012

Father's Day

I've been thinking about Kurt all day today. Not Kurt the husband. Or Kurt the lover. Or even Kurt the man. But Kurt the Daddy.

The role he never was allowed to fully grow in to. What he could have been. Should have been.

Barely had the chance to be.

Father's Day is different now in our house. Its a remembrance day of sorts. Trying to keep the man alive for his son. And mom trying to hold herself together. A celebration of a different form.....

We talk about Daddy all the time. But today is for him. And whether he is here or not, Gavin only really has one daddy.

Gavin's old enough now to start to commemorate. To participate in ritual. To help form traditions.

To celebrate.

Even if he doesn't fully understand, some day he will. And when he does, I want the memories there.....

So we visit his dad in the place he now rests. Then we hug and kiss balloons, and send them to where he waits in the sky.

My balloon carries a message. I could have written a book full of things I've silently said to Kurt all day. About how he was an awesome dad. How it was ripped from him far too soon. About how badly Gavin needs his daddy. About how there are some things a mommy just can't do. About how inadequate I feel. About how I know I'll never fill his shoes.... About how badly I wish he were here.....

But instead of writing what's on my mind, I write what's on my heart. The same thing I say to him every day.....

We love you Daddy. Always loved. Always missed. Always Yours. Forever.

With him all around me, every day is a day of remembrance in my life. Remembering him. Mourning him. Celebrating him.

Every day a Father's Day......

Happy Father's Day Kurtis.

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Life can change in a blink of an eye. A fairy tale can come to an end before the happily ever after. I learned that the hard way on August 11, 2010. That is the day my world changed. That is the day my husband died. But on the days to follow, I'm starting to learn something else as well. That even though the fairy tale is over, the story of life doesn't end. And even when the condolences have ceased, the sorrow does not disappear.

Its not always happy. Its not always sad. Sometimes its raw and painful. Sometimes its introspective. And yes, sometimes it is dare I say happy. This is another part of the story. The part that people don't always see. Its what happens between the final words and the final page. Its the blank page before you close the cover.

Its the continuation of my love story. Its the process of my grief. Its the growing relationship between me and our son. Its the rest of my life.

Life Ain't Always Beautiful - Sung by Gary Allan

Life aint always beautiful
Sometimes it's just plain hard
Life can knock you down, it can break your heart

Life aint always beautiful
You think you're on your way
And it's just a dead end road at the end of the day

But the struggles make you stronger
And the changes make you wise
And happiness has its own way of takin it's sweet time

[CHORUS]
No, life aint always beautiful
Tears will fall sometimes
Life aint always beautiful
But it's a beautiful ride

Life aint always beautiful
Some days I miss your smile
I get tired of walkin all these lonely miles

And I wish for just one minute
I could see your pretty face
Guess I can dream, but life don't work that way

But the struggles make you stronger
And the changes make you wise
And happiness has its own way of takin it's sweet time

No, life aint always beautiful
But I know i'll be fine
Hey, life aint always beautiful
But it's a beautiful ride
What a beautiful ride

Quotes & Inspiration

I love you Mommy. ~Gavin K.C.
“Lost love is still love, Eddie. It takes a different form, that's all. You can't see their smile or bring them food or tousle their hair or move them around a dance floor. But when those sense weaken, another heightens. Memory. Memory becomes your partner. You nurture it. You hold it. You dance with it. Life has to end," she said. "Love doesn't.” ~ Mitch Albom "The Five People You Meet In Heaven"
Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, "I will try again tomorrow.” ~Mary Anne Radmacher
If ever there is tomorrow when we're not together.. there is something you must always remember. you are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think. but the most important thing is, even if we're apart.. i'll always be with you. ~Winne the Pooh
Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all. ~Dale Carnegie
The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone else's highlight reel. ~Steven Furtick
The biggest obstacles in life are the barriers our minds create. ~Unknown
Rock bottom became the solid foundation on which I built my life. J.K Rowling
I am at that ledge where the choice is offered. I am carrying another life, but the choice is still mine... I cannot say that it was actually my will that has kept me from choosing to go with you. I would like to think that I am a loving mother, that I had hoped for a child long enough that I could not simply cast off that dream. But I am sure there is another, stronger will at work. If it were simply up to me, I think I would simply relax into death... Dying seems easy. Living is hell. ~Stephanie Ericsson, "Companion Through the Darkness"